A Long Overdue Update!


I know I haven’t blogged for a long while.  I should be punished!  Any suggestions on how would be considered.  Note, I said ‘considered!’ 😉

We broke our cane the other day.  Or I should say my ass did.  Mistress was giving me Her usual nine strokes.  She has a thing about the number nine.  I have no idea why.  But the last stroke was harder than the others and the cane just split.  I’m going to miss the sting of that implement.  Of course we’ll get another one.  But Christmas is coming up so we’ll probably have to wait until the new year.


I wrote this on Google+ earlier:

I have to say our BDSM lifestyle has made our marriage so much stronger.  As a slave I am more attentive to my Wife’s needs than I ever was when we were vanilla.  I wasn’t a bad husband at all, but this life has made us so much more in tune with each other and we have much more communication.  We hardly ever argue and we are much closer as a couple.  I love serving my Wife, my Mistress.

Some people seem to have the idea that BDSM equals abuse. 

But to me BDSM = Love!

It’s sad that the BDSM world gets such a negative view in the vanilla world.  Considering the only time the media pay it wny attention is when there’s a particularly salacious story worthy of their time, I guess it’s understandable to a point.  With all the whips and chains it’s easy for someone who just doesn’t get it to see such a relationship as abusive.  And, yes, it can be a minefield even for those who are into it.  There are plenty of abusive people out there drawn to this lifestyle precisely because they can gain a lot of control of the unsuspecting and those new to the lifestyle.  Caution is always advisable.

But when you’re lucky enough to be in the right relationship with the right person, this lifestyle is nothing short of amazing.  Mistress and I have always been close, even before we started our D/s life.  But since I became Her slave, our love is stronger than ever.  Everything is enhanced.  Yes, even the sex is hotter!  I wouldn’t swap this life for anything! 

Happy kinking everyone, until I post my next blog!

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  1. BDSM = Love…exactly!


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