A New Direction

Wow, I haven’t blogged in a long while.  The reason is mainly there has been nothing to write about for too long.  Our lives have been a huge ball of stress and we took a long hiatus.  It was my fault as I couldn’t sustain my submission with everything that has been going on.

I finally found a way to get back to who I am.  And we’re going in a slightly new direction.  Our relationship was for a large part kink based.  I’ve been looking into something called a Female Led Relationship.  This is basically the woman in charge with or without kink.  It looks like it’s going to work well for us. 

I’ve always been drawn to being a service oriented slave.  I already do the lions share of the cooking and a lot of the cleaning.  Now this will come even more to the fore.  The other day I had the pleasure of bathing Mistress and washing Her hair.  I know She really enjoyed it and I did too!  Now I dress and undress Her.  Mistress is growing in confidence and is becoming more demanding and making me do more things.  She has never had a problem being strict and She can certainly spank me hard enough.  But She never really demanded much from me.  It looks like that is starting to change.  No complaints from me.  Mistress has a tendency to ask for things or say something like “when you’ve got a minute…”. I don’t mind that at all as it’s just Her way.  But it gives me a submissive thrill when She orders me to do something.

And what is it with feet??? I hate feet!  Or I used to, anyway.  Mistress usually has to order me to give Her a foot rub.  The other day I started giving Her a long foot massage.  Then I started kissing Her feet.  At first just on the top of them then I started kissing the under side of them.  And I had a ridiculous amount of pre-cum while doing it!  I’m going to make foot rubs a regular part of my service to Her.  I know Mistress loves this.  She’s not too sure about me kissing Her feet as Her skin is sensitive and my rough face irritated Her skin.  I guess I have to make sure I’m well shaved before I kiss Her feet in future. 

I know I get more of a jolt from doing things I don’t particularly want or like to do.  The idea of Mistress making me do something whether I like it or not pushes all my submissive buttons.  I have a feeling I will have much more to write from now on.

Simple Acts Of Service.


I feel my relationship with Mistress is developing and deepening further as time goes by.  I’ve always enjoyed doing things for Her.  Cooking for Her, serving Her food, fetching and carrying, buying Her little things etc.  Last night for the first time in ages I washed Her hair.  It’s a simple enough act, but wonderfully intimate, with both of us naked in the shower.  She derived such obvious pleasure from me washing Her hair, so I have a feeling this will be a regular thing from now on.  And today I had the task of straightening Her hair.  Again, a simple enough act that takes greater significance given our lifestyle.

Mistress has always had trouble ordering me around.  She’s very reasonable and usually just asks me to do something ‘when I’ve got a moment.’. Last night I noticed that She started telling me to do things rather than asking.  I’m not going to comment on it as I don’t want Her to become conscious of the change and go back to Her more polite self.  I’m not looking for Her to start barking orders like a drill sergeant, as that would be too much and not like Her at all.  I’d like Her to be more comfortable telling me to do things and asserting Her authority more.  This seems to be happening.  I know I get a great deal of pleasure from pleasing Her and doing things for Her.  A lot of chores I’ve taken to doing without being asked and She seems to be noticing this and appreciating it.  Maybe this is giving Her the confidence to be more assertive, as is Her right.

She certainly doesn’t hold back when it comes to spanking me, as the photos I share demonstrate.  She has gone out to have lunch with Her mother and left me with a few things to do.  It’s Her birthday tomorrow so I plan to spoil Her rotten this weekend.  Now I’m off to put some Christmas decorations up and make the place look nice for Mistress when She comes home.  I love my life and I adore my Mistress!

Name Your Fetishes



I saw the Name Your Fetishes pic above floating around on Google+ and couldn’t resist having fun with it. After all, what a fun way to let people know the kinky things I like!

So here are mine.


Butt plugs.
Ass worship.
Pussy worship.
Having no control.
More spanking.
Being watched.
Yet more spanking.

Just off the top of my head! 😉

Am I kinky enough?

So, what about you?  What turns you on?

A Long Overdue Update!


I know I haven’t blogged for a long while.  I should be punished!  Any suggestions on how would be considered.  Note, I said ‘considered!’ 😉

We broke our cane the other day.  Or I should say my ass did.  Mistress was giving me Her usual nine strokes.  She has a thing about the number nine.  I have no idea why.  But the last stroke was harder than the others and the cane just split.  I’m going to miss the sting of that implement.  Of course we’ll get another one.  But Christmas is coming up so we’ll probably have to wait until the new year.


I wrote this on Google+ earlier:

I have to say our BDSM lifestyle has made our marriage so much stronger.  As a slave I am more attentive to my Wife’s needs than I ever was when we were vanilla.  I wasn’t a bad husband at all, but this life has made us so much more in tune with each other and we have much more communication.  We hardly ever argue and we are much closer as a couple.  I love serving my Wife, my Mistress.

Some people seem to have the idea that BDSM equals abuse. 

But to me BDSM = Love!

It’s sad that the BDSM world gets such a negative view in the vanilla world.  Considering the only time the media pay it wny attention is when there’s a particularly salacious story worthy of their time, I guess it’s understandable to a point.  With all the whips and chains it’s easy for someone who just doesn’t get it to see such a relationship as abusive.  And, yes, it can be a minefield even for those who are into it.  There are plenty of abusive people out there drawn to this lifestyle precisely because they can gain a lot of control of the unsuspecting and those new to the lifestyle.  Caution is always advisable.

But when you’re lucky enough to be in the right relationship with the right person, this lifestyle is nothing short of amazing.  Mistress and I have always been close, even before we started our D/s life.  But since I became Her slave, our love is stronger than ever.  Everything is enhanced.  Yes, even the sex is hotter!  I wouldn’t swap this life for anything! 

Happy kinking everyone, until I post my next blog!

A Kinky Sunday afternoon


Mistress and I just had a sexy experience I wanted to share.  We’ve had a lot of stress in our lives lately so kink has had to take a back seat.  This afternoon we were lying naked on the bed and cuddling.  Mistress decided She wanted to cane me.  So I took 9 hard strokes of the cane that had me hopping about.

We have a product that is similar to Ben Gay or Icy Hot.  As Mistress has a cruel streak She decided to spread this stuff all over my ass cheeks.  Then She spanked me with the short handled bath brush.  This had me squirming all over Her lap.  As if that wasn’t enough torture She then spread my cheeks and smeared some of this stuff on my asshole.  Almost immediately a burning sensation began in that region.  I’m not sure if it was as bad as using ginger, as that is something I haven’t experienced.  But I really felt it.  It went on for at least 10 minutes before the burning sensation eased.  Then as an encore, Mistress made me lie on my back and She spread some of the stuff on my nipples.  I swear I have the most sensitive nipples!  I can only stand them being touched when I’m horny.  Otherwise they’re too ticklish.  At first I felt nothing.  Then it began to feel as if someone was lightly teasing my nipples with fingertips.  My whole body kept lightly jerking and it felt like little shocks going through me.  It felt amazing.  Mistress now has something else to torture me with.  But what sweet torture.  Of course after all this I was incredibly horny.  My cock was achingly hard and I had to beg Mistress to let me cum.  A couple of mutual orgasms later, we were both extremely happy.  It looks like our D/s lifestyle is getting back on track!  And at last  have something to blog about!

The Sting Of The Cane


So Mistress gave me nine strokes of the cane today.  Simply because She can.  For some reason my bottom really marked this time, more so than usual.  Maybe it’s because I haven’t been caned for a while.  I haven’t been spanked either.  Mainly because I haven’t been well.  I’ve had a cough for a few weeks that I just haven’t been able to shake off.  I hate when that happens.

So today Mistress got it in Her head that She wanted to cane me.  And what Mistress wants, Mistress gets.  So I bent over the bed, legs apart, bottom stuck out and waited for that first painful stroke.  The first one is always the worst.  It doesn’t matter how ready you think you are, you can never be fully prepared for the sharp sting of that first stroke.  It really make a you catch your breath.  The pain seems to cut right through you.  The tradition of the cane is supposed to be ‘six of the best.’. Mistress doesn’t go much for that tradition.  Her favourite number is nine.  So nine strokes of the cane it was.  Each stripe blazed its trail across my naked cheeks.  I was really squirming by the end.  But I’m proud of the way I can take a caning.  For some reason the marks never seem to last long, but the pic was taken just a few minutes after I received the last stroke.  I think I marked quite well this time.  Probably because I haven’t been beaten in while.  It was good to feel the biting sting of the cane again.  I’ve missed it!

In the mood to show

I’m in an exhibitionistic mood so here are some pics.  As you can see Mistress knows how to redden my bottom!






Deepening The Connection


I haven’t blogged for a while.  Partly because there hasn’t really been that much to blog about.  Our lives are so crazy with demands on our time coming from so many areas that we’ve barely had time for each other.  Even when we went away for a business convention last week we were so busy that we didn’t even have time to play. 

At all.

So a few days ago, on our wedding anniversary, we made a pledge to get back to basics.   And how!  The other night I received 25 hard strokes of the paddle for something that happened while we were away.  I hadn’t been spanked for a while so it really hurt!  The marks have only just faded from that one.  It’s a measure of how hard the paddling was, because my bottom is usually white again the day after a spanking!

I’m making much more of a conscious effort to completely submit to Mistress.  She does own me, after all.  Last night I pampered Her for three hours, massaging Her feet, stroking Her hair, rubbing Her back.

I HATE feet!

I usually never go near Her feet, or anyone’s feet.   But last night I was the one who volunteered.  And for some reason I enjoyed it.  I still hate feet.  But I enjoyed doing something for Mistress that I don’t like doing, because I was doing something for Her that She enjoyed. 

That’s the mark of a true submissive isn’t it?  Doing something you don’t like because your Dominant wants / likes it.  You might not like doing it but you enjoy that you’re doing it for them. 

I seem to be sinking deeper into my submission to Mistress.  The other day I asked Her how far and how deep She wants to go with this.  I won’t lead Her.  This is, after all, Hers to control.  As long as She understands I’m willing and happy to do whatever She wants me to do.  This is our lifestyle now and I couldn’t be happier.

Living The Dream


So we’ve gotten into a routine now where every day Mistress gives me nine strokes with the cane.  Just because She can.  I’m certainly not going to complain.  I have to bend over the bed and She lays on the nine strokes fairly hard.  It’s a great way for Her to remind me of my place.  The other day She substituted the paddle for the cane. 

This partly came about after a conversation we had the other day about keeping the relationship going 24/7.  Communication is always key to a relationship like ours.  So we talk out any issues we may have.  I sometimes have difficulty maintaining my slave attitude all the time.  It can cause some tension.  So we came up with some ideas on how we can improve things.  The daily spanking is one such idea.  I like getting little reminders of my place.  For instance, I love when Mistress grabs my collar, pulls me close and tells me I belong to Her.  I get such a delightful shiver down my spine when She does that.  Or when She grabs my cock or an ass cheek and says “this belongs to me.”  Words can have a powerful effect when used right.

We also started to bring the butt plug into play more.  For instance, the other day we had to drive to the city to a relatives apartment, that we’re sorting out while he’s in hospital.  I had the plug in my ass the whole drive there -it’s about an hours drive- then we did our laundry there, all the while I still had the plug in my ass.  To be honest, it’s not very comfortable to wear, but there’s something about Mistress putting it in me and making me keep it in until She’s ready for it to come out that just makes me so submissive.  It’s without doubt one of the most effective tools in Her arsenal…so to speak! 😉

I like sitting on a cushion on the floor by Her feet as we watch television.  She strokes my hair or caresses my back.  It’s just so damn nice.  Living this lifestyle, I feel like I’m living the dream.  I think this is what I’ve wanted most of my life and I know I’m so lucky to have a woman who understands me so well and can give me everything I need.  I do my best to be a good slave and satisfy all Her needs too.  All in all, this relationship is working beautifully.

We’ve also gotten into tease and denial and orgasm control.  Mistress is very good at teasing me.  I love when She uses me sexually.  I never know if I’m going to get my release, but that’s okay because to be honest I’m focussed on satisfying Her sexual needs.  I seem to be doing a pretty good job on that if I do say so myself. <grin>  We actually had a very satisfying experience tonight.  I made Mistress cum four times with my tongue.  And tonight I did get my release.  I don’t know why, but when we have a D/s session I have the sort of orgasms I used to have when I was twenty.  This lifestyle is certainly agreeing with us!



According to WordPress I am one year old today.  Yes, apparently I started this blog account 1 year ago today.  I thought I’d had it longer than that!  Blimey, I’ve had a lot to say for myself, haven’t I? 😉

So I’m calling this my spankiversary.  Of course I had to celebrate it by writing a blog.  Anything else would have been inappropriate!

So here’s to another year of blogging about my slave lifestyle and all the wonderful spankings I get from my Mistress. 😀

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