Merry Christmas To My Readers!

My Mistress and I would like to wish a very merry Christmas to all my readers who celebrate it and  Happy Holidays to those who don’t.  We hope you enjoy your day tomorrow.  Have a fun and kinky weekend!  I thought I’d share something red.  After all…it IS the season!


Thank you for following and reading my blog. I appreciate every one of you.  I appreciate all the likes and comments.

I never thought when I started what I thought was going to be a simple spanking blog that it would turn into something of a slave journal.  I’m sure I’ll have lots more to share in 2015 so I hope you’ll stick around.  After all, you wouldn’t want to leave me talking to myself….would you? 

All Tied Up!




So last night we finally had a good session with our new bondage set.  It’s basically a set of straps with hooks on that can be connected together.  They are pretty strong and can secure you well.  To start with there are a set of padded wrist cuffs and a set of ankle cuffs.  You put those on and build from there.  The second picture above was Mistress’s first experiment using all the pieces.  I was tied pretty thoroughly and could hardly move.  It felt amazing.  But it was hardly practical as all the vital areas are pretty much inaccessible.  Still it felt amazing to be trussed up like that.

After about twenty minutes Mistress released me and we took a shower together, before returning to the bedroom and carrying on where we left off.  Mistress reattached the wrist and ankle cuffs then connected the two sets.  Then She put a strap around my body and connected that.  I could hardly move.  Of course She zeroed in on my nipples.  Does anyone else find their nipples are much more sensitive when you are tied up and helpless?  Mine are extremely sensitive at the best of times.  But last night I could hardly bear to have them touched at all.  Naturally that didn’t stop Mistress.  She loves to torment me!  She lightly bit them, sucked them, raked Her nails across them.  I get shivery now just thinking about it.  Then She spent some time caressing my body, before moving on to my balls and my cock.  She sucked me for a while, which was amazing!  She flickered Her tongue all over the head, which drives me out of my mind!  She wouldn’t let me cum though.  Not yet, anyway.

After a while Mistress wanted some attention of Her own, which of course is Her right!  So She untied me and I went down on Her until She had one of the hardest orgasms She has had in a while.  I love to lick Her pussy and She is always noisily appreciative of my efforts!  Then She allowed me to make love to Her.  I came a lot!  My orgasms always seem so much stronger and more copious when we have a BDSM session.  I always feel that pressure building long before I actually cum.  I know a few of my followers are into chastity, but that’s not our thing.  Mistress does like to tease and deny and sometimes She will take Her pleasure from me without letting me have my release.  But She does also let me have my share of orgasms. 

Mistress is already planning future sessions with our new toy.  She’s going to tie me to a chair and beat me.  She’s also going to tie me up as we watch television together from time to time.  Our new purchase seems like a pretty good investment!

Happy Birthday To My Mistress!


This is just a quick post to wish my Mistress a very happy birthday.  As always I am at Your service to do anything You want.  I love being Your slave and will always submit my will to You.  Thank You from the bottom of my heart for taking me as Your slave.  Our relationship is so much stronger this way and I know I’m a better man when I submit to You.

We went to a store yesterday and bought a new bondage set. It’s nothing fancy but it will give Mistress some new options of what to do with me.  We tried it out briefly last night.  It looks like it’ll be a lot of fun.  The pic shows just part of the set.  I think I’m going to be a bit tied up in future!

Simple Acts Of Service.


I feel my relationship with Mistress is developing and deepening further as time goes by.  I’ve always enjoyed doing things for Her.  Cooking for Her, serving Her food, fetching and carrying, buying Her little things etc.  Last night for the first time in ages I washed Her hair.  It’s a simple enough act, but wonderfully intimate, with both of us naked in the shower.  She derived such obvious pleasure from me washing Her hair, so I have a feeling this will be a regular thing from now on.  And today I had the task of straightening Her hair.  Again, a simple enough act that takes greater significance given our lifestyle.

Mistress has always had trouble ordering me around.  She’s very reasonable and usually just asks me to do something ‘when I’ve got a moment.’. Last night I noticed that She started telling me to do things rather than asking.  I’m not going to comment on it as I don’t want Her to become conscious of the change and go back to Her more polite self.  I’m not looking for Her to start barking orders like a drill sergeant, as that would be too much and not like Her at all.  I’d like Her to be more comfortable telling me to do things and asserting Her authority more.  This seems to be happening.  I know I get a great deal of pleasure from pleasing Her and doing things for Her.  A lot of chores I’ve taken to doing without being asked and She seems to be noticing this and appreciating it.  Maybe this is giving Her the confidence to be more assertive, as is Her right.

She certainly doesn’t hold back when it comes to spanking me, as the photos I share demonstrate.  She has gone out to have lunch with Her mother and left me with a few things to do.  It’s Her birthday tomorrow so I plan to spoil Her rotten this weekend.  Now I’m off to put some Christmas decorations up and make the place look nice for Mistress when She comes home.  I love my life and I adore my Mistress!

Name Your Fetishes



I saw the Name Your Fetishes pic above floating around on Google+ and couldn’t resist having fun with it. After all, what a fun way to let people know the kinky things I like!

So here are mine.


Butt plugs.
Ass worship.
Pussy worship.
Having no control.
More spanking.
Being watched.
Yet more spanking.

Just off the top of my head! 😉

Am I kinky enough?

So, what about you?  What turns you on?

A Long Overdue Update!


I know I haven’t blogged for a long while.  I should be punished!  Any suggestions on how would be considered.  Note, I said ‘considered!’ 😉

We broke our cane the other day.  Or I should say my ass did.  Mistress was giving me Her usual nine strokes.  She has a thing about the number nine.  I have no idea why.  But the last stroke was harder than the others and the cane just split.  I’m going to miss the sting of that implement.  Of course we’ll get another one.  But Christmas is coming up so we’ll probably have to wait until the new year.


I wrote this on Google+ earlier:

I have to say our BDSM lifestyle has made our marriage so much stronger.  As a slave I am more attentive to my Wife’s needs than I ever was when we were vanilla.  I wasn’t a bad husband at all, but this life has made us so much more in tune with each other and we have much more communication.  We hardly ever argue and we are much closer as a couple.  I love serving my Wife, my Mistress.

Some people seem to have the idea that BDSM equals abuse. 

But to me BDSM = Love!

It’s sad that the BDSM world gets such a negative view in the vanilla world.  Considering the only time the media pay it wny attention is when there’s a particularly salacious story worthy of their time, I guess it’s understandable to a point.  With all the whips and chains it’s easy for someone who just doesn’t get it to see such a relationship as abusive.  And, yes, it can be a minefield even for those who are into it.  There are plenty of abusive people out there drawn to this lifestyle precisely because they can gain a lot of control of the unsuspecting and those new to the lifestyle.  Caution is always advisable.

But when you’re lucky enough to be in the right relationship with the right person, this lifestyle is nothing short of amazing.  Mistress and I have always been close, even before we started our D/s life.  But since I became Her slave, our love is stronger than ever.  Everything is enhanced.  Yes, even the sex is hotter!  I wouldn’t swap this life for anything! 

Happy kinking everyone, until I post my next blog!

A Kinky Sunday afternoon


Mistress and I just had a sexy experience I wanted to share.  We’ve had a lot of stress in our lives lately so kink has had to take a back seat.  This afternoon we were lying naked on the bed and cuddling.  Mistress decided She wanted to cane me.  So I took 9 hard strokes of the cane that had me hopping about.

We have a product that is similar to Ben Gay or Icy Hot.  As Mistress has a cruel streak She decided to spread this stuff all over my ass cheeks.  Then She spanked me with the short handled bath brush.  This had me squirming all over Her lap.  As if that wasn’t enough torture She then spread my cheeks and smeared some of this stuff on my asshole.  Almost immediately a burning sensation began in that region.  I’m not sure if it was as bad as using ginger, as that is something I haven’t experienced.  But I really felt it.  It went on for at least 10 minutes before the burning sensation eased.  Then as an encore, Mistress made me lie on my back and She spread some of the stuff on my nipples.  I swear I have the most sensitive nipples!  I can only stand them being touched when I’m horny.  Otherwise they’re too ticklish.  At first I felt nothing.  Then it began to feel as if someone was lightly teasing my nipples with fingertips.  My whole body kept lightly jerking and it felt like little shocks going through me.  It felt amazing.  Mistress now has something else to torture me with.  But what sweet torture.  Of course after all this I was incredibly horny.  My cock was achingly hard and I had to beg Mistress to let me cum.  A couple of mutual orgasms later, we were both extremely happy.  It looks like our D/s lifestyle is getting back on track!  And at last  have something to blog about!

Submission Is In My Soul!


Submission is in my soul.  Even when life gets in the way, even when our D/s lifestyle has to be put to one side due to outside pressures and stresses, I can still slip back into my role when the time comes to take my place as Her slave once more.  It’s as easy as slipping into a coat.  This part of me that will not be denied.  This is the reason I haven’t posted on here in a long while.  But Mistress has put me back in my place.

We’ve had a very stressful family situation that has taken a lot of our time and energy the past several months.  The situation is now over and I can resume my position kneeling at the feet of my Mistress.  But this has made me realize one thing.  Being a slave isn’t just a role.  Just something I do.  Being a slave is everything to me.  It’s as essential as breathing.  So hopefully I’ll have more to blog about very soon. 

Even though we put the lifestyle on hold I’ve still enjoyed serving Mistress in various ways as and when time permitted.  The lifestyle might have been put on hold but my feelings weren’t.  As I said a slave is what I am.  Everything I do reflects that.  So I’m finally back.  Did you miss me?

The Sting Of The Cane


So Mistress gave me nine strokes of the cane today.  Simply because She can.  For some reason my bottom really marked this time, more so than usual.  Maybe it’s because I haven’t been caned for a while.  I haven’t been spanked either.  Mainly because I haven’t been well.  I’ve had a cough for a few weeks that I just haven’t been able to shake off.  I hate when that happens.

So today Mistress got it in Her head that She wanted to cane me.  And what Mistress wants, Mistress gets.  So I bent over the bed, legs apart, bottom stuck out and waited for that first painful stroke.  The first one is always the worst.  It doesn’t matter how ready you think you are, you can never be fully prepared for the sharp sting of that first stroke.  It really make a you catch your breath.  The pain seems to cut right through you.  The tradition of the cane is supposed to be ‘six of the best.’. Mistress doesn’t go much for that tradition.  Her favourite number is nine.  So nine strokes of the cane it was.  Each stripe blazed its trail across my naked cheeks.  I was really squirming by the end.  But I’m proud of the way I can take a caning.  For some reason the marks never seem to last long, but the pic was taken just a few minutes after I received the last stroke.  I think I marked quite well this time.  Probably because I haven’t been beaten in while.  It was good to feel the biting sting of the cane again.  I’ve missed it!

In the mood to show

I’m in an exhibitionistic mood so here are some pics.  As you can see Mistress knows how to redden my bottom!






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