Merry Christmas To My Readers!

My Mistress and I would like to wish a very merry Christmas to all my readers who celebrate it and  Happy Holidays to those who don’t.  We hope you enjoy your day tomorrow.  Have a fun and kinky weekend!  I thought I’d share something red.  After all…it IS the season!


Thank you for following and reading my blog. I appreciate every one of you.  I appreciate all the likes and comments.

I never thought when I started what I thought was going to be a simple spanking blog that it would turn into something of a slave journal.  I’m sure I’ll have lots more to share in 2015 so I hope you’ll stick around.  After all, you wouldn’t want to leave me talking to myself….would you? 

Happy Birthday To My Mistress!


This is just a quick post to wish my Mistress a very happy birthday.  As always I am at Your service to do anything You want.  I love being Your slave and will always submit my will to You.  Thank You from the bottom of my heart for taking me as Your slave.  Our relationship is so much stronger this way and I know I’m a better man when I submit to You.

We went to a store yesterday and bought a new bondage set. It’s nothing fancy but it will give Mistress some new options of what to do with me.  We tried it out briefly last night.  It looks like it’ll be a lot of fun.  The pic shows just part of the set.  I think I’m going to be a bit tied up in future!

Simple Acts Of Service.


I feel my relationship with Mistress is developing and deepening further as time goes by.  I’ve always enjoyed doing things for Her.  Cooking for Her, serving Her food, fetching and carrying, buying Her little things etc.  Last night for the first time in ages I washed Her hair.  It’s a simple enough act, but wonderfully intimate, with both of us naked in the shower.  She derived such obvious pleasure from me washing Her hair, so I have a feeling this will be a regular thing from now on.  And today I had the task of straightening Her hair.  Again, a simple enough act that takes greater significance given our lifestyle.

Mistress has always had trouble ordering me around.  She’s very reasonable and usually just asks me to do something ‘when I’ve got a moment.’. Last night I noticed that She started telling me to do things rather than asking.  I’m not going to comment on it as I don’t want Her to become conscious of the change and go back to Her more polite self.  I’m not looking for Her to start barking orders like a drill sergeant, as that would be too much and not like Her at all.  I’d like Her to be more comfortable telling me to do things and asserting Her authority more.  This seems to be happening.  I know I get a great deal of pleasure from pleasing Her and doing things for Her.  A lot of chores I’ve taken to doing without being asked and She seems to be noticing this and appreciating it.  Maybe this is giving Her the confidence to be more assertive, as is Her right.

She certainly doesn’t hold back when it comes to spanking me, as the photos I share demonstrate.  She has gone out to have lunch with Her mother and left me with a few things to do.  It’s Her birthday tomorrow so I plan to spoil Her rotten this weekend.  Now I’m off to put some Christmas decorations up and make the place look nice for Mistress when She comes home.  I love my life and I adore my Mistress!

Name Your Fetishes



I saw the Name Your Fetishes pic above floating around on Google+ and couldn’t resist having fun with it. After all, what a fun way to let people know the kinky things I like!

So here are mine.


Butt plugs.
Ass worship.
Pussy worship.
Having no control.
More spanking.
Being watched.
Yet more spanking.

Just off the top of my head! 😉

Am I kinky enough?

So, what about you?  What turns you on?

A Kinky Sunday afternoon


Mistress and I just had a sexy experience I wanted to share.  We’ve had a lot of stress in our lives lately so kink has had to take a back seat.  This afternoon we were lying naked on the bed and cuddling.  Mistress decided She wanted to cane me.  So I took 9 hard strokes of the cane that had me hopping about.

We have a product that is similar to Ben Gay or Icy Hot.  As Mistress has a cruel streak She decided to spread this stuff all over my ass cheeks.  Then She spanked me with the short handled bath brush.  This had me squirming all over Her lap.  As if that wasn’t enough torture She then spread my cheeks and smeared some of this stuff on my asshole.  Almost immediately a burning sensation began in that region.  I’m not sure if it was as bad as using ginger, as that is something I haven’t experienced.  But I really felt it.  It went on for at least 10 minutes before the burning sensation eased.  Then as an encore, Mistress made me lie on my back and She spread some of the stuff on my nipples.  I swear I have the most sensitive nipples!  I can only stand them being touched when I’m horny.  Otherwise they’re too ticklish.  At first I felt nothing.  Then it began to feel as if someone was lightly teasing my nipples with fingertips.  My whole body kept lightly jerking and it felt like little shocks going through me.  It felt amazing.  Mistress now has something else to torture me with.  But what sweet torture.  Of course after all this I was incredibly horny.  My cock was achingly hard and I had to beg Mistress to let me cum.  A couple of mutual orgasms later, we were both extremely happy.  It looks like our D/s lifestyle is getting back on track!  And at last  have something to blog about!

The Sting Of The Cane


So Mistress gave me nine strokes of the cane today.  Simply because She can.  For some reason my bottom really marked this time, more so than usual.  Maybe it’s because I haven’t been caned for a while.  I haven’t been spanked either.  Mainly because I haven’t been well.  I’ve had a cough for a few weeks that I just haven’t been able to shake off.  I hate when that happens.

So today Mistress got it in Her head that She wanted to cane me.  And what Mistress wants, Mistress gets.  So I bent over the bed, legs apart, bottom stuck out and waited for that first painful stroke.  The first one is always the worst.  It doesn’t matter how ready you think you are, you can never be fully prepared for the sharp sting of that first stroke.  It really make a you catch your breath.  The pain seems to cut right through you.  The tradition of the cane is supposed to be ‘six of the best.’. Mistress doesn’t go much for that tradition.  Her favourite number is nine.  So nine strokes of the cane it was.  Each stripe blazed its trail across my naked cheeks.  I was really squirming by the end.  But I’m proud of the way I can take a caning.  For some reason the marks never seem to last long, but the pic was taken just a few minutes after I received the last stroke.  I think I marked quite well this time.  Probably because I haven’t been beaten in while.  It was good to feel the biting sting of the cane again.  I’ve missed it!

In the mood to show

I’m in an exhibitionistic mood so here are some pics.  As you can see Mistress knows how to redden my bottom!






Understanding The Lifestyle


To the uninitiated, to vanilla people, to people who are new to BDSM, and in particular to FemDom, t our lifestyle must be so hard to understand.  To connect with.

With the media perception of FemDom as the leather-clad, whip-wielding dominatrix, barking out orders and torturing Her victims in all sorts of fiendish ways.  That seems to be the typically male view of FemDom. 

No wonder vanilla people scratch their heads and wonder what it’s all about.

I’ve seen a lot of blogs out there questioning BDSM. 

Is it abuse?

What on earth could possess someone to want to turn to this kind of lifestyle?

I can’t explain it.  I have no idea why.  I can only speak from my personal perspective.  I have a deep seated need to serve.  To belong.  To be owned.  I do like to have my own free time.  But what Mistress wants comes first.  I’ve always felt the need to serve Her.  This need is deep in my soul.  I’m grateful Mistress has not only accepted my need but risen to the occasion and truly enjoys dominating me.  She has always enjoyed spanking me.  That particular kink is what brought us together.  She has taken to Her role like a duck takes to water.  I think She is really starting to test the limits of Her control of me.  I keep telling Her there are no limits.  She can do whatever She wants to do to me.  I can say this with confidence because I know Her so well.  She would not want to abuse Her power over me.  She’s also not into anything crazy kinky or dangerous.  So when I say She can do anything She wants to me, I can say it with confidence.

BDSM, and FemDom in particular, has always had negative connotations in many ways.  Even within the BDSM community there can be cliques and judgment.  The classic BDSM dynamic of dominant men and submissive women seems to be the accepted “norm”.  Female submissives in particular can be guilty of this.  Many female subs will always refer to the submissive as ” she”.  I know most don’t mean anything by it, it seems to be an automatic thing.  But it can leave us male sub’s feeling excluded, on the outside looking in.  Like we’re in a separate category.  A sub category, if you will.  Many female sub’s seem to have that traditional viewpoint: men are supposed to be “strong”, dominant and women are supposed to be ” weak” and submissive.  Well, I don’t feel weak.  In fact no submissive is ever weak.  There is strength in submission.  The strength in knowing and accepting who you are, your true nature.

I know many female sub’s are accepting and welcoming of their submissive brothers and I’m certainly not attacking female subs at all.  Far from it.

Whether you are a dominant man/woman, a submissive man/woman, a Cissy, a cross dresser, whatever your kink might be, it’s all covered in the BDSM umbrella.  All should be welcomed and accepted equally.  We all have to worry about people outside the lifestyle judging us.  Within the BDSM community there should only be acceptance.

Deepening The Connection


I haven’t blogged for a while.  Partly because there hasn’t really been that much to blog about.  Our lives are so crazy with demands on our time coming from so many areas that we’ve barely had time for each other.  Even when we went away for a business convention last week we were so busy that we didn’t even have time to play. 

At all.

So a few days ago, on our wedding anniversary, we made a pledge to get back to basics.   And how!  The other night I received 25 hard strokes of the paddle for something that happened while we were away.  I hadn’t been spanked for a while so it really hurt!  The marks have only just faded from that one.  It’s a measure of how hard the paddling was, because my bottom is usually white again the day after a spanking!

I’m making much more of a conscious effort to completely submit to Mistress.  She does own me, after all.  Last night I pampered Her for three hours, massaging Her feet, stroking Her hair, rubbing Her back.

I HATE feet!

I usually never go near Her feet, or anyone’s feet.   But last night I was the one who volunteered.  And for some reason I enjoyed it.  I still hate feet.  But I enjoyed doing something for Mistress that I don’t like doing, because I was doing something for Her that She enjoyed. 

That’s the mark of a true submissive isn’t it?  Doing something you don’t like because your Dominant wants / likes it.  You might not like doing it but you enjoy that you’re doing it for them. 

I seem to be sinking deeper into my submission to Mistress.  The other day I asked Her how far and how deep She wants to go with this.  I won’t lead Her.  This is, after all, Hers to control.  As long as She understands I’m willing and happy to do whatever She wants me to do.  This is our lifestyle now and I couldn’t be happier.

Living The Dream


So we’ve gotten into a routine now where every day Mistress gives me nine strokes with the cane.  Just because She can.  I’m certainly not going to complain.  I have to bend over the bed and She lays on the nine strokes fairly hard.  It’s a great way for Her to remind me of my place.  The other day She substituted the paddle for the cane. 

This partly came about after a conversation we had the other day about keeping the relationship going 24/7.  Communication is always key to a relationship like ours.  So we talk out any issues we may have.  I sometimes have difficulty maintaining my slave attitude all the time.  It can cause some tension.  So we came up with some ideas on how we can improve things.  The daily spanking is one such idea.  I like getting little reminders of my place.  For instance, I love when Mistress grabs my collar, pulls me close and tells me I belong to Her.  I get such a delightful shiver down my spine when She does that.  Or when She grabs my cock or an ass cheek and says “this belongs to me.”  Words can have a powerful effect when used right.

We also started to bring the butt plug into play more.  For instance, the other day we had to drive to the city to a relatives apartment, that we’re sorting out while he’s in hospital.  I had the plug in my ass the whole drive there -it’s about an hours drive- then we did our laundry there, all the while I still had the plug in my ass.  To be honest, it’s not very comfortable to wear, but there’s something about Mistress putting it in me and making me keep it in until She’s ready for it to come out that just makes me so submissive.  It’s without doubt one of the most effective tools in Her arsenal…so to speak! 😉

I like sitting on a cushion on the floor by Her feet as we watch television.  She strokes my hair or caresses my back.  It’s just so damn nice.  Living this lifestyle, I feel like I’m living the dream.  I think this is what I’ve wanted most of my life and I know I’m so lucky to have a woman who understands me so well and can give me everything I need.  I do my best to be a good slave and satisfy all Her needs too.  All in all, this relationship is working beautifully.

We’ve also gotten into tease and denial and orgasm control.  Mistress is very good at teasing me.  I love when She uses me sexually.  I never know if I’m going to get my release, but that’s okay because to be honest I’m focussed on satisfying Her sexual needs.  I seem to be doing a pretty good job on that if I do say so myself. <grin>  We actually had a very satisfying experience tonight.  I made Mistress cum four times with my tongue.  And tonight I did get my release.  I don’t know why, but when we have a D/s session I have the sort of orgasms I used to have when I was twenty.  This lifestyle is certainly agreeing with us!

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